Inspiration from this Episode 

“Encouragement or having courage we can tell that by somebody who says yes, I can do that.”

“Give your kids some room for grace because self-confidence also comes as we practice something and grow proficient in it.”

“These are people who are compassionate they put other people’s needs before their own without worrying about what they’re going to lose.”

083 | Us & Kids: In Courage

Intro  

On today’s show, were going to talk about being in a space of Courage. So you might think, okay well you know courage is for when there’s something really scary and sometimes just like courage. That’s not a problem. I just go and do what I need to do.  

But do you know why and there are people who get stumped and just can’t seem to move forward or goes so slow? Like what’s taking you so long? This podcast will answer those great questions! Everyday...

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“When we eat a good meal, this will help you manage your emotional self, which will keep you calmer and start the day off on the right foot. 

“When we stay away from shameful things, we are now protecting ourselves, because we are worth protecting.” 

“And often, we can stay away from those shameful things by telling the TRUTH to ourselves and to others kindly.”

082 | Us & Kids: EASTER

Intro  

On today’s show, we're going to talk about Easter. But, we're also going to fit that into our desires, and the skills that we need to achieve our desires. This is not a highly spiritual, Christian podcast in terms of that we're not going to talk all about the Jesus part of it. We're going to talk about the good human health part of it. We can make it so that it also works with everyday life, and how does it fit into your spiritual life. 

We are going to break down the word Easter....

Inspiration from this Episode

“Those connections through kind words and kind actions matter for the rest of what happens in our relationship DNA.”

“And that means that you know how to listen carefully and you know how to keep your own self under control so that you can continue to connect with those that are listening.”

“If you want to give all of that a little boost use some touch, hold hands, sit by each other, use hugs.”

077 | Us & Kids: Necessary Core Strengths

Intro 

Last week we looked at the values that we bring into our relationship and how those values build up the basic structure of our relationships with our kids or even with our spouses. So today we’re going to look a little bit more at the particulars that hold this structure together. 

This structure is in the particulars were going to talk about are important for your marriage and for any age kiddo that is sitting next to you. So this applies all...

Inspiration from this Episode

“Then they can bring our actions and our words and our attitudes all in line to help us achieve our goals.”

“We had to work to compare those values because they influence our desires in our vision for a marriage and a family.”

“We just had to shave some rough edges off in order to create shared values that we honored.”

076 | Us & Kids: Best Marriage Ever

Intro 

In today’s show, we are focusing on building up the skills we need for helping our marriages and our families regardless of the messiness of life. Today we are going to talk about DNA and we are looking at DNA within your relationships, your marriage, and your family because that too is always going to be unique just to you and so we can’t make a course or a program that is going to be one size fits all.

This week we are diving into the D strand specifically and while the D strand could stand for a lot of different things, we...

Inspiration from this Episode

“Shame is our most powerful master emotion - meaning it has a lot of power and it’s a master over the other emotions.” 

“You could though be a very honorable and integral part of the functioning of those things.”

“They will feel comfortable with you and be able to calm down and take responsibility for their actions.”

075 | Us & Kids: Shame, Responsibility and Honor

Intro  

On today’s show, we are diving into shame and responsibility and it’s going to apply both to you as a husband or wife, and how you interact with your kiddos. We’re going to start by talking about yourself because so much of our parenting and interactions in our marriage can come from a place of shame and that can be somewhat contagious.  

The podcast today will help you understand where shame sneaks into your heart and mind...and how it sneaks into kiddos’ being as well. And...

Inspiration from this Episode

“When the stress is high, often kisses go bye-bye.”

“And when it builds up inside of us, our brain becomes anxious and can’t think well.”

“As you change your self talk, your internal thoughts can move to become more positive.”

074 | Us & Kids: KISSes & Stress

Intro 

On today’s show, we are wrapping up the last part of a 5 part series we started in January about how to stay married forever while you parent together - not one or the other. Today we are talking about KISSes. Of course, there has to be kisses! Eskimo and butterfly kisses, as well as I love you - oooh! kisses. 

But when there is stress and headaches, so much and too much! Who even remembers to kiss? And, does it really matter if we kiss? Really? Well, if you can take care of this kind of KISS, then the other kisses are so much better and sweeter!

What You’ll Learn in Today’s Episode

• How to...

Inspiration from this Episode

“We don’t even necessarily even care if you’re happy in your heart, we know when you smile it changes the way your brain thinks and works.”

“Lead into a space that is helpful and calms the chaos.”

“Our voice tells both our thoughts and our emotions so it’s a double power.”

071 | Us & Kids: SET for Calmness

Intro 

On today’s show, we are continuing on with a little book I wrote and just taking it chapter by chapter. The little book is about the five things you need for being married forever while you parent together. Last week we talked about intentions and how to make good intentions and be aware of what we are bringing into a conversation or relationship space.

So today, the second step to that is knowing how to reset so that you can get some calm. We do this reset by thinking and talking about 3 things. We are going to dive into these three things for staying and...

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“It’s important to realize that in your tone and what your body is doing you’re sharing information.”

“Because just holding hands brought you connected even though you didn’t have a good solution.” 

“Pick the kinder interaction. Then move into kindness because that interaction matters.”

070 | Us & Kids: Intentions on Purpose

Intro  

On today’s show, we are starting out the year by talking about marriage. When we developed the Us and Kids format, platform, and later the DNA for Fun course, we wanted to really be able to encourage these two places in the same place. Because being married forever while you parent together is crucial to being married forever.  

We know based on studies that the fractures in a marriage come in the first 5 years of parenting, not the first 5 years of marriage. That is because in the first 5 years of parenting there...

Inspiration from this Episode

“Do you take time to actually think and move your emotions and look at the consequences?”

“What do you know about you that others don’t or wouldn’t believe?”

“They relied on family when family was good for them and they learned to rely on each other.”

069 | Us & Kids: Mary, Marry, and Merry

Intro 

It’s close to Christmas day...and like most other traditions and truths there is a fabulous story to go along with this tradition of Christmas. So, today instead of teaching and guiding you into spaces about being your best self, parent or partner/spouse, I want to encourage you to relax, listen to this story, with all the applications for your life today.

For those of you who know the details to this story, I am skipping a few of them in the interest of time and the focus of this podcast. I am leaving some space for spiritual interest and intrigue.  I invite you to wonder about...

Inspiration from this Episode

“Are you investing or how can you improve your investment in gold life skills for your kids?”

“You’re trying to be gracious to them but you also want them to feel safe and secure enough to be honest with you.”

“Learning how to do things together is another really good skill, and being compassionate.”

068 | Us & Kids: Gifts for Everyone

Intro 

On today’s show, we are talking about finding ways to end the year well. When we feel that in many ways this year has been bumpy, there have been anticipations and disappointment and adjustments that just seem nonstop. Sure there has been good, but there’s also been struggle and tension.

Last week we talked about anticipation and how the biblical wise men had to make changes and pivots and they were tired too but that they ended up in a really good spot. This week we are going to continue on with those wisemen and that biblical story -...