Be married forever while parenting together!

In D.N.A, for Fun Communications you will learn how to:

• Be married forever while you parent together. ...and you will like it!
• One simple system for building better communication and relationships with  your spouse/partner and your kids.
• Core Communication Skills: Practical, Usable and Applicable to any age and stage of relationship….meaning that they will work when talking with your spouse or with your kids.
• Stop the energy drain of frustration, chaos and distancing.
•  Learn how to have family relationships that are Fulfilling, Unlimited in options and connections and Naturally Good!

This is for you if

• You are tired of having the same conversation with your spouse over and over again.
• You are exhausted from the parenting challenges and feel too alone to even figure it out.
• You wonder how the kids got “boss” status...and they are only 2 and 4 years old! 
• You wonder if your spouse even knows you anymore.
• You miss bedroom snuggles and fun.
• You laugh at work and cry (or want to cry) at home.
• You are sure there has to be a more fun way to be married forever while you parent together.

This is what you get when you join D.N.A for Fun!

The DNA Way: 
A years worth of therapy
through 8 videos and
Connection Coaching!

Connections that Matter

 Connecting emotionally and relationally with others can feel tricky or mysterious.  Our hormones and behaviors build on each other to create relationships on all different levels. Learn how to develop those connections so that they are filled with love, strength and courage!

Managing the Emotional Me

Staying connected with those we love is often impacted by what emotions we share, and how we share them. Learn how to understand your own emotions - and how to manage them so that they are helpful and not harmful.  This will help calmness and connections of trust and joy grow throughout your relationships. 

Learning to Listen 

Yes, there is an art to listening!  It takes courage to set aside your own agenda and really hear what others are saying.  Their words will matter as well as their emotions. Listening well means that there is an understanding of both the spoken words and all the unspoken messages that are included in all communications.  It is an art and it is worth learning.

Speaking clearly 

….or clearly, I was speaking!  Being able to talk with words and with tones that are understandable can be quite a challenge.  Speaking means choosing words well as well as choosing how, when and why to say them. The choice of tone, attitude and facial expression all impacts how well our intended message is received.  Clearly, this too is an art that is worth learning!

Touch that Matters

Our bodies are wired for touch!  We have neurons everywhere and that means that our brains are always taking in physical information.  Early on in life we learned that touch might mean being rocked to sleep, or getting more yummy food, or giggled and tickled.  Our bodies and brains are still looking for the physical connection that reassures us that we are alive and liked. Touch often, and with love.

Honor, protection and equipping 

The value that we put on those around us plays a significant role in how well we connect with them (module one).  So, understanding how honor interacts with protection and how protection interacts with equipping - and how they all work together to build strength and courage in relationships is really valuable, at any age or stage in life. 

Giving Benefit of the Doubt 

The ability to be optimistic, gracious and generous will carry relationships through many challenging places.  Learning how to avoid assumptions and how to look for the good in places that there is uncertainty can help a relationship, at any age, become more steady and secure.  The skills of the above modules are crucial for being able to give the Benefit of the Doubt wisely.

Turning Towards 

Turning Towards is the skill of being able to stay connected to those we love, even when we are in tension.  It builds on understanding the “invitation” to include, and the request to be reassured….of love, togetherness and commitment.  Using all the skills from the other modules, being able to Turn Towards those we love with kindness and truthfulness opens up the avenues for vulnerability, tenderness and faithfulness. Use it often and enjoy the fun of being married forever while you parent together!

Hi! I'm Jan.  Thank you for stopping by!

I know that it’s hard, maybe weird to trust someone you don’t know with life places as personal as parenting and marriage. 

And I appreciate your interest and trust.

You know, I’ve been professionally supporting moms, dads, husbands and wives through the parenting and married milue for about 35 years.

 I understand that the first 5 year of being parents are crucial to the health of the marriage as the skills and connections (for both marriages and parenting kiddos) are best developed together. 

Alongside my clients, I was also figuring out how to be well married while we grew to our family of 4 kids.

Messy, moody and often miraculous that we made it through!

My kids grew up (yours will to:)  and my work with couples and parents continued.  I have supported lots of marriages as they worked to blend the “hats” in a more sustainable balance; I supported parenting through the many stages and ages of kids lives - and the impact those stages have on our marriages as well.